no title [377]

just a quick one – and mainly because i have a burning question.

suppose you are happily sober for over a year. suppose you go out for dinner with two of your best friends who support you in this matter. suppose you are the advocate for happy-non-drinking, so you order a lovely bottle of sparkling water. suppose you are thankful for every day you wake up fresh headed. suppose you are really proud of yourself doing this. suppose you are now a person who goes out for a run after work, or who picked up tennis, who was brave enough to engage in estranged family relations again. suppose you have lost quite a few kg’s and look very very healthy again. suppose you are amazed with all the things you have achieved over the last year.

do you have this picture in your mind?

then here’s my question:
why am i grumpy for not being able to drink?
i should be overly grateful.
not grumpy at all.


4 thoughts on “no title [377]

  1. I get grumpy about it, too, with 13 months of sobriety. I really wanted a drink many times today, and I watched people in a restaurant tonight drinking right along with their meals (it also doesn’t help that I’ve drastically reduced my carb and sugar intake). I think the feelings are just par for the course.


  2. This has never happened to me, and I can only guess why. My guess is that when I was making the transition to sobriety, a big part of that move was dedicated to two things: 1) seeing alcohol for what it really is, and 2) targeting my desire. It’s not possible for me to sum up these things here, but I’ll mention two books that were helpful for those two factors: Alan Carr’s “The Easy Way to Quit Drinking,” and Jack Trimpey’s “Rational Recovery: The New Cure For Substance Addiction.” In addition to those books, researching the neurological link to addiction (and its cessation) via the science of neuroplasticity was the icing on the cake. Neuroplasticity maintains that minds can ‘rewire’ away from old pathways of thought into new ones. This is an active mindfulness application away from an attraction to alcohol toward a deep aversion to it. Jeffrey Schwartz’ book “You Are Not Your Brain” is a great place to start. Neuroplasticity is affirming what Buddhist psychology and meditation and mindfulness practices have always known: the only power thoughts have is the power we give them.


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